People, in general, overthink things. Well, people who actually have some depth that is, overthink things. And that includes women. We like to over- analyse everything to its death, particularly in relationships. This is not unique to women although we like to think it is. In fact, many relationship problems have their root in people seeing what isn’t there, looking for evidence of this or that, looking to find fault when in fact we should be taking things at their face value.
Analysing things is part of who we are, part of what makes us try to make sense of the world around us. I once read a quote that said “just because you’re paranoid doesn’t mean they aren’t out to get you.” But the opposite is also true and sometimes you’re really just being paranoid. So, when in doubt, ask. Just step right up and ask “what did you mean when you said xyz”. Ask in a nice, kind way, and you may be surprised to find out that you’re hunting monsters in daylight and in fact it really is all in your head. This is why its imperative not to hang out with negative people. Negative people only see life in its X-ray version, its negative version. They don’t know how to live without drama, they need it in order to survive.
Sometimes, when it walks like a duck, and it quacks like a duck, and it waddles like a duck it really IS JUST A DAMN DUCK. It isn’t a terrorist out to get you, it isn’t a girlfriend with a knife at your back. People do and say stupid things sometimes and it doesn’t mean that there’s a hidden meaning behind what they say. We need to stop trying to script what people should say and how they should say it before we accept it with grace and kindness, and to do that, all it takes is enough kindness to give the other person the benefit of the doubt. ASK. Then if you need to, go build your walls of protection against that person; but if they say what they mean and they mean what they say and you can see that the duck is just a duck, let it go..